"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies." - Proverbs 31:10
Several weeks ago, my parents and I went to the State Fair
The Proverbs verse above doesn't need to apply to just wives, but it can apply to husbands as well. How many people out in the world are people with noble character? It's probably easier to find a ruby than a person who truly loves and serves God with all of his heart. There aren't too many of them out there anymore.
As teens, "falling in love" and all that type of stuff is a big thing in our lives. All of us have at least one person we have a crush on, we've got to admit that. Some of us wonder why it's so easy for the rest of the world to find a girlfriend or boyfriend; however, more than half the time it's a shallow relationship where the girl and guy just want each other for the wrong reasons. As Christians, we don't dress up with slinky clothes or flirt around, yet that's the only reason why the world is able to pair up. What about us? What if we never get a girlfriend or boyfriend?
You know what? That's GREAT! It's a lot better for us to have no one than to have someone we're not truly happy with. I encourage you--DON'T JUST SETTLE FOR ANYONE JUST FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING SOMEONE! The song "Adelaide" by Anberlin comes to mind: Shouldn't need anyone just scared of being alone. To be honest, I have thought thoughts like, "What if I never find anyone?" But then I ask myself, "Would you rather have anybody just because, or be alone and away from an unsubstantial relationship?"
CHALLENGE: Make a list of what you are looking for in a guy/girl. Don't forget that #1 on your list should be that the other person is a Christian; 1 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" And don't write that list based on a particular person. Here are some instructions:
- Write the list with the qualities you want in him/her. Add things you want in his/her personality, his/her interests, etc. And it's okay--you can put looks too, though it might not matter in the future.
- Look over your list. Are those qualities pleasing to God? Cross out anything that might not be.
- PRAY OVER YOUR LIST! Ask God to give this person strength to wait for you! Ask God to send you this person, and He'll most likely send you someone even better.
I've done this, and it's proved to be helpful in "filtering," so I don't just like every cute guy I see. Looking over the list today, I thought, "Wow, this is a really special guy"; not just any average guy you see at the mall or the State Fair.
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Alright, here's a question, should someone date at all until their ready to start looking for a spouse?
same question.
i agree with you sam, don't "have" someone just for the sake of having someone!
and yes, we may think that there's no human on earth that applies to all the qualities on that list. but God has prepared someone for us that is even better than the list! most of us miss out on that person because we are so consumed with the world around us and choose the first person that comes along. temptation is satan's most powerful and most dangerous weapon. just remind yourself of how much greater God's plan is compared to ours. we can't see the whole picture yet...
sorry if i'm going overboard...i tend to do that sometimes...
Hey, I'll give a longer answer to the question, but I don't have much time so right now so I'll just say:
I think it depends whether or not people should date when they're teens or when they're looking for a spouse. The thing is, keep in mind that whoever you go on a date with could be your future husband/wife.
I'm still thinking about the rest of my answer, so I'll post my full thoughts as soon as I can!
Okay, I talked to my mom about the question:
My mom said that she didn't believe in dating, but courting. In courting, the guy comes over to the girl's house, maybe eats dinner with her family, and the guy and the girl later sit and talk and learn about each other. It's a better alternative to dating because it keeps the guy and girl pure for each other. There's a lot of temptation involved with dating and being alone together. This answer deals with "dating" when you're a teenager. As for "dating" when you're single and living by yourself, I'm not sure if this would apply since you're not with your parents anymore. Either way, purity one of the most important things in a relationship, and we should avoid anything that would lead to temptation and sin.
yep that's what my mom said
And if there's one thing I've learned in my life: Mom is always right.
Grace, what does your mom say about it?
my mom is really against the whole "boyfriend-girlfriend" thing. she thinks courting is a good idea, but just not to make a really big deal about it. make friends with guys and gals, instead of just one or the other. treat them as friends.
You know, we might not agree or be happy with everything our parents say. But even if we disagree, we still need to honor and obey them because God commands us too. For sure we'll appreciate it when we get older and more mature.
agreed.
and when we have kids and want them to obey us. (^_^)
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